I’ve been thinking about “last words” recently – not things we say on our death-bed! – the need that a lot of us show to have the last word on a subject.
I can be like this – I like to think I’m a lot better than I was, but I admit that I’m not perfect!
And I think in a lot of ways we do this not so much to be right, but to be seen to be right – if I have differing views, it seems like I “win” if I have the last thing to say on the subject. Maybe that is the underlying issue – the need to be seen to be right.
If we are really sure we are right, then what does it matter if others know we are right? Well, it matters coz we are human! And also, because we know we are right, we want that others see this too – we don’t have to keep all this correctness to ourselves – others will benefit if they see the truth too!
Ah! When I put it like that, we can see the fault in the argument – because there is rarely only one “right” answer – most often there is are various shades of gray – various options that are all equally valid.
And in fact, even where most right-minded people would agree with one view, if someone else strongly holds opposing view, nothing I can say will convince them that I am right, and they are wrong. So having the last word is pointless.
Still, it is a habit the best of us falls into: but sometimes, the real winner in a tug of war is the person who let’s go first!